the cafes for wine, plus food, are still a bit rare in the USA... or make that, real conversation-oriented cafes, versus a slightly-slower version of a drive-thru concept. it may take longer before it is something that transcends a hyped-happening place, and something that is ingrained in people to go and do various things. for one, people (owners and patrons) have to learn that it is ok to not be hurried through the visit, and the check is only given when the patron asks for it. yes, a very anti-capitalistic idea. one of the enjoyments of visiting such an establishment is having enough time to notice that two people have made a connection, and how wonderful it is to notice this connection, for it is a bit of rarity (it seems). it need not be broadcast to the entire place with laughter and other PDAs (public displays of affection), but rather, and simply, in the way they look at each other, and the tone of voice — without having to decipher what they are actually saying. so much language in communication that goes beyond the actual words.